Parenting in the Shadows of the Soul: Reclaiming the Hidden Treasure


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Parenting As A Hero's Journey

A Parenting As A Hero’s Journey Virtual Retreat allows you to EXPERIENCE a deep dive into an adventure created specifically for parents like you… parents who are hearing a call to a different way of being as a way to create the world you want your children to inherit. Your guide, Meryn Callander, will guide you through:

Thursday, November 5, 2015 at 7 p.m. EST (World Clock Converter Here).  A Welcoming Initiation by Meryn Callander: Each virtual retreat begins with a live call with your guide who will share an overview of the journey ahead.

Breadcrumbs On The Trail: Each virtual retreat includes practical guidance, exercises and love notes emailed three times a week.

Wednesday, November 11, 2015.  The Deep Dive: A webinar that covers the deepest, most profound insights into the guides’ teachings.  This webinar is for you to keep and enjoy.  You receive access to the webinar on this day, but you can view it at your leisure.

Personal Connection: You will have a personal connection with your guides in our forums.  You can ask questions about your practical exercises and parenting challenges, as well as find more inspiration for your real life parenting adventure.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015 at 7 p.m. EST (World Clock Converter Here).  Closing Circle: A live call at the end of your three-week journey to share your experience, bid farewell to your fellow travelers and guides and discover ways to keep the momentum going if you like.

Your Virtual Retreat Facilitator: Rebecca Thompson is a holistic counselor and the founder of the Consciously Parenting Project.  Rebecca will be your facilitator for all of the virtual retreats through 2015.



Parenting in the Shadows of the Soul: Reclaiming the Hidden Treasure

By Meryn Callander

Many of us in the initial anticipation and excitement of Answering the Call into conscious parenting did not anticipate the frustration, distress, and even anguish that is often part of charting new territory. Almost each and every one of us has at some point had our hopes, dreams and aspirations come crashing down.

Whether you think of the Call as coming from your Higher Self, your Soul, or God/Goddess, it touched you so deeply that you have turned from the comfort of the known paths of parenting, perhaps even at the disapproval of family and friends … and now, as likely as not, you find yourself alone.

I found myself feeling a little daunted when Parenting As A Hero’s Journey creator, Lisa Reagan,  proposed I address “the underbelly of parenting”, but then again, surely I know something about this … I have been forced into the underbelly of parenting, the dark corners of my soul, more times as a parent than I had ever anticipated. Goodness, I have authored two books on the subject (Why Dads Leave and After His Affair). And so I wondered, why this apprehension?

The subject at hand touches vulnerable, tender parts in me … the sadness, the helplessness I felt so acutely when I was unable to protect my daughter from the inevitable hurts of life—did I really ever imagine I would be able to? The times I knew—in retrospect—I had done “wrong” by her. The times I felt disappointed in, or angry with, my then husband … I had no idea how having a child would impact us, as individuals or as a couple.

These are hard times, painful times, bewildering times. We all know them, in one way or another.

Today I know these vulnerable, tender parts that are still so alive in me serve me well, they are a gift to me … far from wishing them away, I receive them, soften into them. Although these times may now be in the past, the tenderness remains forever … and with that the knowledge of how vulnerable we as human beings are, the knowledge of the power in that vulnerability, the knowledge that our children come through us but have their own paths to walk and lessons to learn and destiny to live. I learned the value of surrendering into the moment, and trusting that even in our suffering and struggles, everything is just as it is meant to be. I learn that the learning never ends … and so here, my wish is that we will learn, together, a little more about parenting in the shadows of the soul, and the gifts therein.



Meryn Callander Head Shot 2-15Meryn Callander was born in Portland, Australia, in 1952. She graduated from Monash University, Melbourne, with degrees in both economics and social work. At 25, she quit her position working with children in crisis, feeling she was doing little but applying Band-Aids to gaping wounds. Searching for that illusive something more, she headed to Europe, and then the U.S.

It was there she met John W. Travis, M.D., known to many as the founding father of wellness. Their marriage and professional partnership spanned almost three decades, during which time they pushed the leading edges of wellness—going well beyond the popular focus on nutrition and physical fitness, into the mental and emotional, interpersonal and spiritual dimensions of wellbeing. They co-authored several pioneering books on wellness, and facilitated seminars and retreats in the U.S. and internationally.

In 1993, Meryn became a mother. After decades of working in adult wellness, she gleaned a whole new appreciation of how profoundly our early years impact the wellbeing of the adults we become. In 1999 she co-founded, and served for several years as president of, the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children. The Alliance emerged from a core group of interdisciplinary experts dedicated to supporting caregivers, professionals, and policymakers in practicing the art and science of nurturing children.

Why Dads Leave: Insights and Resources for When Partners Become Parents ( grew out of their journey through the early years of parenting. While John stayed well beyond the challenges of those early years, their experiences compelled her to identify the dynamics underlying the epidemic of men leaving their families—physically or emotionally—soon after the birth of a child, and how couples can grow together rather than apart. The book offers insights and practical ways of preventing the devastating impact of this dynamic.

Her latest book, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity, is a reflection of her concern at the escalating rates of infidelity and the devastation that is left in its wake. How can we, as women, make good of our heartbreak? And how might we avoid—or heal from—the trauma of infidelity?

Meryn is a counselor, spiritual intuitive, and akashic reader. Visit her website here.


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